10.27.19 Notes

FOUR WORDS TO MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE UNSHAKABLE

Ephesians 5:21-33  (Chapters 5,11)

“God’s plan for your marriage is that it will last forever and that it will be the most fulfilling human relationship in your life.”
Nelson (p. 159)

Marriage is not as much about ____________________ the right person as __________________ the right person.

1. MODEL THESE 4 WORDS 

___________________  _______  ________  ____________________

…submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
Ephesians 5:21 (NLT)

• __________________ sub-mission – this makes marriage an amazing relationship

2. HOW DO WE MODEL THIS?

Wives: “I will ______________ my husband”. (Ephesians 5:22-24)

the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33b  (NLT)

• “Phobeo” – to reverence or be in awe of,          
   _________________, __________________ him up. 

How does a wife show respect to her husband?  

• Invite his opinion where you might have decided without him in the past.

• Affirm him, tell him how much you appreciate his strengths.

• Speak well of him to others.

• Believe in him. Believe the best about him.

• Need him. Let him know that you need him in your life.

• In conflict, speak respectfully to him even when you disagree. Reflect
  back the words he has communicated to you to let him know that you
   have heard him.

• Meet his sexual needs.

Husbands: “I will ___________ my wife.” (Ephesians 5:25-32)

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up His life for her.  Ephesians 5:25  (NLT)

• “Agape” – God kind of selfless, ___________________,
    and unconditional love. 

How does a husband show his love for his wife?

• Touch her lovingly and non-sexually on a regular basis. 

• Talk to her daily, listen to her heart and her feelings.

• Listen to her without trying to solve a problem. 

• Speak lovingly of her to others.

• Stay in touch with her throughout your day with an occasional text, email,
   or phone call.

• In conflict, affirm your love for her and reflect back the words she has
   communicated to you. This will help her feel heard.

Marriage is a ___________________ partnership of ____________ leadership and mutual submission

So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:33 (NLT)

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Genesis 2:24 (NKJV) 

5 For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.  Matthew 19:5-6 (NKJV)

Marriage is a covenant relationship not a _________________.

• A contract is based on mutual ____________________. 

• A covenant is based on mutual ___________________________. 

Bottom Line: 

Unshakable Marriages are a submission competition!